Self-harm is a complex and often misunderstood issue that affects people of all ages and
backgrounds. Despite increasing awareness, many misconceptions still surround self-harming
behaviors, making it difficult for individuals to seek help and for loved ones to provide
meaningful support. In this blog, we’ll debunk some common myths about self-harm and explore
the facts.
Common Myths About Self-Harm
Myth #1: Self-Harm is Just Attention-Seeking
One of the most harmful misconceptions is that people who self-harm are simply looking for
attention. In reality, self-harm is often a deeply private and personal act, used as a coping
mechanism to deal with overwhelming emotions. Many individuals go to great lengths to hide
their injuries out of shame or fear of judgment.
Myth #2: Only Teenagers Self-Harm
While self-harm is more commonly discussed in relation to adolescents, people of all ages can
struggle with it. Adults and even older individuals may engage in self-injury as a way to cope
with unresolved trauma, mental health conditions or emotional distress.
Myth #3: People Who Self-Harm are Suicidal
Although self-harm can sometimes be linked to suicidal thoughts, many people who engage in
self-injury do not intend to end their lives. Instead, they may use it as a way to manage their
emotions or to feel a sense of control. However, self-harm is a serious concern and should never
be ignored, as it can increase the risk of more severe mental health struggles over time.
Myth #4: Stopping Self-Harm is Simply About Willpower
Self-harm is not just a habit that someone can stop on their own; it’s often tied to deep emotional
pain, mental health disorders, and coping mechanisms that have developed over time.
Professional support, therapy and healthier coping strategies are often necessary to help
individuals overcome self-harming behaviors.
The Facts About Self-Harm
Self-harm is a sign of emotional distress. People who self-injure are often dealing with intense
feelings of sadness, anxiety, guilt or anger. It is a coping mechanism rather than a desire for
attention or manipulation.
Mental health conditions often co-exist with self-harm. Many individuals who engage in self-
harm struggle with depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder (BPD), PTSD or other
mental health concerns.
There are healthier alternatives to self-harm. With the right support, individuals can learn to
replace self-harming behaviors with safer coping strategies, such as journaling, deep breathing,
art therapy or seeking professional guidance.
Self-harm isn’t always physical. While cutting, burning, or hitting oneself are common forms,
self-harm can also include behaviors like excessive risk-taking, substance abuse, disordered
eating or emotionally self-destructive actions such as isolating oneself or engaging in toxic
relationships.
Support from loved ones can make a difference. A non-judgmental, compassionate approach
can encourage someone struggling with self-harm to seek help and explore alternative ways to
cope.
How to Support Someone Who Self-Harms
Listen Without Judgment – Avoid reacting with shock or criticism. Instead, offer a safe space
for open conversations where the individual feels heard and supported.
Encourage Professional Help – Therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), has been shown to be effective in addressing self-harm
behaviors.
Educate Yourself – Understanding why people self-harm can help you provide better support
and avoid harmful reactions or assumptions.
Offer Healthy Coping Strategies – Encourage the use of alternative coping mechanisms such
as mindfulness, physical activity, or creative outlets.
Be Patient – Recovery is a process, and setbacks may happen. Continue offering support and
encouragement without pressure or frustration.
Seeking Help
If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, know that you are not alone.
Professional help is available, and recovery is possible. Reach out to a mental health provider, a
trusted support system, or a crisis helpline for guidance.
