The holiday season can be magical — but it can also be full of stress. Between travel, overstimulation and disrupted routines, children can easily become overwhelmed. Meltdowns, tears and power struggles are common this time of year, even for kids who typically regulate well.

If your family is struggling to keep the peace (and the joy) during the holidays, you’re not alone. These moments are normal — and they don’t mean you’re doing anything wrong as a parent. The good news? With a little preparation and patience, you can help your child navigate the season with more calm and connection.

 1. Keep Routines Where You Can

Kids thrive on predictability. While schedules often shift during the holidays, try to maintain familiar anchors like mealtimes, nap or bedtime routines, and morning rituals. Even small consistencies — reading a favorite book before bed or having breakfast together — can help children feel grounded when everything else feels different.

2. Manage Expectations (Yours and Theirs)

The holidays often come with high hopes — for perfect pictures, happy gatherings and magical moments. But real life is messy, and kids don’t always match the mood. It’s okay if your child doesn’t want to sit on Santa’s lap, join group games or stay up late for festivities. Meet them where they are, and remind yourself that their needs matter more than the photo or tradition.

3. Plan for Transitions

Traveling, visiting relatives, or jumping between activities can be tough for kids who rely on structure. Give them a heads-up about what’s coming next and what to expect. A simple “We’ll stay at Grandma’s for dinner, then head home for bedtime” helps them mentally prepare. Building in quiet breaks between busy events can also prevent overload.

 4. Stay Calm During Meltdowns

When a child is melting down, your calm becomes their compass. Take a breath, lower your voice, and offer reassurance. Try to understand what’s underneath the behavior — hunger, exhaustion or sensory overload are often the real triggers. Once the storm passes, gently talk through what happened and brainstorm coping strategies together.

 5. Focus on Connection, Not Perfection

At the end of the day, your child won’t remember if every event went smoothly — they’ll remember feeling safe, loved and understood. Keep expectations flexible, offer grace (to them and yourself) and focus on meaningful connection over picture-perfect moments.

 You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Parenting through the holidays isn’t easy, but it’s okay if things don’t go according to plan. Emotions may run high for kids and parents alike and that’s part of being human. Give yourself permission to simplify, slow down and embrace the season for what it is: a time to connect, not to be perfect.

If you find yourself needing extra support managing holiday stress or family dynamics, Family Connections is here to help.

You don’t have to navigate the holidays alone reach out to Family Connections for guidance, support, and tools to help your family thrive.